motivated ur child

Petikan ini diambil frm Wardina Saffiyah Facebook-Notes,di harap dpt membantu saya dalam motivate my childrens + students...

■Work with your child to set personal growth goals, and develop ways to monitor his or her progress toward those goals
■Do not compare your child to his or her siblings or others. Speak up when other people make comparisons.
■Avoid rewarding your child’s performance outcomes. If you must use rewards, reward your child’s effort or task completion.
■ Discuss with your child topics that relate to motivation, including failure avoidance, anxiety, self-worth, and individual progress.
■Create connections for your child between his or her school experience and real life.
1. Students are motivated to learn and achieve when they perceive that their teachers/parents care about them. (our relationship-how close we are, how much our children trust us plays a very important role)

Teachers who care were described as demonstrating democratic interaction styles, developing expectations for student behavior in light of individual differences, modeling a "caring" attitude toward their own work, and providing constructive feedback.


2. Students do not seek help (a) if they perceive that their self-worth is threatened, (b) if their cognitive competence is low, (c) and if they perceive little benefit in seeking help.



We see why ,many of our schoolchildren are soooo afraid to seek help, ask or participate... our approach , attitudes to teaching and disseminating knowledge has to change..like NOW!



They are basically SCARED... our method of teaching and in-calculating knowledge is centered upon the "scare tactic" YOU HAVE to..we give NO what so ever autonomy to children, giving NO autonomy decreases their intrinsic motivation to do something..the right to make choices is very very significant to a person ..this is even true in case case of religious teachings..we ALWAYS talk about the HARAM, the BAD, NOT to do this and that but forget to talk about the million of good and stuff you CAN do....



That is why we need to remember that in order to increase Achievement Motivation - parenting techniques and support are so crucially important... 2 basic rules are to:-



1. Communicate Explicit or Clear Expectations



tell them what you expect, Why its important...CLEARLY





but let them figure out HOW....



2. Give our children Independent Training..or the freedom to choose after we present to them our expectations...